Internet supports angry bride friend who gave up “shameless” wedding weeks after giving birth

A bride is angry at a “slut” friend who left her wedding a few days ago, but she didn’t tell her.

The newlyweds took to Mumsnet, under the username Hellomeownow, where she explained that she tied the knot last month.

She invited a friend and his fiancée, who answered the invitation with “yes,” even though they were expecting a baby about a month before the wedding.

File photo of the invitation and the child.
File photo of the invitation and the child. A bride has sparked outrage at her friend who recently welcomed a baby who walked out of her wedding just days before it was due, without any text message.
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Hellomeownow said: “She was due 3/4 weeks before the wedding and the baby was called but he said they would see how they felt about having the baby.

“I said when they confirmed attendance, obviously if things change after the baby’s birth, please don’t worry etc.

“Baby born, everything is fine, a lot of Instagram Posts of them with the child in walks, restaurants, etc. Don’t remember the wedding So I suppose they are coming.

“Three days before I checked in to see if the baby would join, my friend replied that’s too much for them now and they can’t do that.”

The bride was angry about the lack of communication, rather than the couple having to back off after welcoming a new baby recently.

She explained in a comment, “I actually don’t mind that they didn’t come, and I understand why. He didn’t say anything until I asked them.”

She continued, “AIBU I think this was rude to let us know this at the last minute and because I just followed through?

It is not bridezilla to expect basic morals.”

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“I wonder if I didn’t check in, would they just show up and their places would all be empty. They were on a sit-down scheme and we paid for their food etc. I never received a card.

“They’re getting married in November, overseas and I’m really a cba [can’t be arsed] to go now. Is it just about when you have a kid, everything/everyone seems petty? “

Her post, “Wedding Guest Withdrawal—Was this rude?? Collect more than 140 answers, and can be read heresince its publication on Thursday.

People almost unanimously agreed that it was in bad taste not to let the newlyweds know that they did not attend, but some claimed that the bride was behaving too.

“Yes, it was rude not to let you know,” AryaStarkWolf wrote.

Darlinsnell agreed, saying, “Yeah totally rude. Having a baby isn’t even an excuse for not communicating about something so important. I wouldn’t bother with their wedding either.”

Notanothertakeaway thought, “I wouldn’t run a wedding with such a young kid. Going for a short walk for coffee locally is so different from a wedding. They were so rude they didn’t know they wouldn’t show up.”

Nowomenaroundeh rages: “They are rude AF. I will only go to their wedding if you Imagine a holiday to that very place with that particular gang of guests.”

Cookiemonster2468 commented, “It’s rude, but they can be quite stressful and exhausting, so don’t go easy on them. Especially if it’s their first child.”

According to Maireas: “That’s exactly it. Too much has probably happened with a newborn. It’s the ambitious planning to go to a wedding shortly after giving birth. You should have texted her, but held it back for a bit.”

Although Anapurna222478063 wrote: “I’m probably putting this on myself because they desperately want to come but are quite weary and unable to make themselves even make the decision to cancel. Maybe a little self absorbed, but maybe given the situation is understandable.”

And Iflyaway added, “Basically OP, when someone has a baby, your whole world gets turned upside down…I know. I was born at 36 weeks.”

“I didn’t have a diaper, a bathtub, anything in place at the time. He was in the ICU. Don’t deal with her case at this difficult time. You seem like a little bride, sorry.”

After receiving some negative comments, Hellomeownow, who is believed to be based in the UK, added in the comments: “It’s not that the bride expects basic morals. Just because someone has a child doesn’t mean the rest of the world stops.”

“It’s totally understandable if they can’t make it. Just so rude in the way they did it.”

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“To be clear – I don’t mind if they don’t come. I understand that having a baby is a big deal and priorities change and you can’t predict how you’ll feel.

“The part that I felt was rude was that I decided they wouldn’t come but not to send a quick text to let us know.

“If you have the time and mental space to post on Instagram (even if it’s for a show as some pps said), you have time for the basic manners of the people who invited and paid you for being somewhere you said you would be.”

Guests sometimes need to decline an invitation, after already answering yes, as Brides.com has outlined tactful ways to do so.

They emphasized, “There is a right and wrong way to do this. A quick phone call to the couple to let them know you care about them can go a long way. Sending a meaningful wedding gift or checking in after the festivities to see how it goes.”

Acknowledging the many reasons people can’t attend suddenly, they advised letting the bride and groom know that you can’t attend as soon as possible.

And you’d still send a gift even if you couldn’t, etiquette expert Micah Meyer was quoted as saying: “The reason we’re sending a wedding gift, regardless of whether you attend or not, is that you not only want to show your support to the couple but show your gratitude. Also to invite you.”

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